Which one do you put at the wheel? Be your own leader!

In your work and life you fulfill different roles. As a consultant, the roles of project leader, developer, designer and consultant are reviewed on an average day. When fulfilling those different roles, different parts of your personality always come in handy. By getting to know the different sides of your personality well, you can consciously choose which behavior you show at what time. At Group Moovs we therefore regularly work with the Voice Dialogue method to discover your different selves. We apply these in our training and coaching. This helps to better understand behaviour and to deal effectively with obstacles.

Are you also curious about how your selves determine your thinking and behavior? Take a situation in your head and ask yourself the following questions to get to know your selves:

  1. What behavior do you automatically show in this situation? Which one am I at the wheel?
  2. What happens if the pressure increases? What do you call this me?
  3. Which selves do colleagues know best about you?
  4. Which selves are there the most? what do they take care of?

I myself have learned a lot from my “selves”. For me it works well to see a bus in front of me in which my selves get a place. It may also help you recognize your selves and find words or characters to name them. A selection of my selves (possibly for inspiration):

Answer Jana question 1:

The Pleaser in me puts harmony first. As a project leader, I provide a nice atmosphere and conviviality within my project group. This me sometimes makes it difficult for me to set clear boundaries. This tip from a colleague helps me with this: “being clear is often nicer than being nice”.

Answer Jana question 2:

The person asking for help may sit at the wheel more often to ask for help and to rely on others. My autonomous self often comes in handy but may more often make way for the self that is asking for help.

Answer Jana question 3:

My Inner Critic encourages me to keep taking another look at the design of the training I created. By being aware of my inner critic I can make use of it and also choose when I give it a different place in the bus so that I can be satisfied with my result.

Answer Jana question 4:

When I put my Inner Child in the front of the bus, colleagues see my playfulness and my imagination is brought to life. I can then fully immerse myself and enjoy the here-and-now. I try to use this in the front if, for example, a brainstorm can use a good dose of creativity.

Which selves are you?

Which selves do you recognize in yourself? And do you consciously manage to give them a place on the bus to adjust your behavior and make it effective for the situation? Reading tip about voice dialogue and your selves:

I (know) my selves by Karin Brugman and others. Theme publisher 2010.

Take the wheel yourself

  • Which one I put you in the front of the bus?
  • By knowing yourself better (your different selves) you can choose which one you use
  • Be your own leader! Be your own driver!

In your work you fulfill different roles and you can use different selves – Which selves do you use and at what time? Nice to sign up yourself or to do that together with a colleague and reflect on how you have approached a job.

Do you want to become your own leader? 

We are happy to help you with that! Contact Jana to discuss the possibilities for a new concept, new learning tools or a new training strategy.

Contact Jana: jana@savant.nu

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